Thinking Out Loud in My Boudoir: Ladies' Excitement

Thinking Out Loud in my Boudoir is a column for some of my random thoughts that, perhaps, other ladies my age are also experiencing or thinking of—whether from same vantage point or another. Or maybe, just maybe, it’s just my own voice reverberating in my own world. I will do my best to discriminate my reason in this column, and just write spontaneously the first things and thoughts that a normal lady could think of. Just writing as I think...

To kick things off... here's my very first TOL :-)

I’m just so excited about certain things right now…and one of them is having this column, so ta-dah!

As I now immediately act upon my excitement that just sprang forth five minutes ago, I am all together amazed (and puzzled by the way) of us ladies’ “excitement” for the things we want.

When we want something, we sometimes tend to get so giddy about it, and usually we want it like NOW, have it now.

I am guilty of this crime, and sometimes even fall victim of my own crime. That’s why I am so cautious and deliberate when it comes to the more serious stuff (heck yes, this rationalization has no space in here *winks*).

But yes, it’s also fun when things get complicated and chaotic, because from there we learn and become wiser and life gets more colorful.  OR, is it just another lie we tell ourselves to assuage our guilt or the pain or for us not to see ourselves stupid?

Whatever. The ladies that we are… We sometimes just want to have fun :-)

That’s one of the privileges of being a “she”. I mean, it’s okay for us to be openly vulnerable, to fall, to commit mistakes, to cry…and just brush things aside and laugh things off or cry things away with our girlfriends.

But I guess the most important part to remember about our being passionate is that we shouldn't make ourselves overly passionate. Yes passion, excitement, zeal, desire—whatever and however you call it—they’re all good, but not when too much.

I'm in my 20s right now and there’s a big and wonderful life  ahead of me. I’m passionate about my law studies, about my dream of becoming a diplomat or working for an NGO, having a wonderful family, and the list goes on. Shoot girlfriend you also have a long list of the things you want to have and want to be.

We are excited about love, first kiss, new place to visit, new book, even first love making… but we don’t usually think of failing, betrayal, falling apart, etc; maybe because they block off our excitement, which is a very good feeling, right?

“This is what I want. I’ll get it. I want it now.”

So to get it, we sometimes think it’s better to lie or fake even just once; then another one; and another one.

But punkin, our actions have consequences… Of course, we all know that.

So whatever way it is we choose to take in order to get what we want, have fun but be responsible.

I’m not saying we do this or that. Different strokes for different folks, right? And I respect your choices. What I am just saying is we better get them with openness reflecting who we really are and with honesty about what we really want, and always always always take accountability.

So yes, girls, we want to have fun—and thrill.

And yes, ladies, we also want to have fun—and sophistication.

And yes, women, we also want to have fun—and dignity.

Oh right, our fun comes in different phases and degrees.

Just in case we stumble in excitement, just get up with some booty-tooching and flip-and-wave.

You’ll get what’s best for you…

Go girl! Don’t think like them, think like you… because there’s nothing much more liberating and empowering than to be who you really are, a lady who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to get what she wants. :-)

Rewind and Refuel

We all have dreams. Dreams are for free! And sometimes, we want them so badly that we pray for them night and day.

Dream job, ideal relationship, comfortable house, car... Whatever we dream of, they all have one thing in common--excitement!

All our dreams excited us at one point. And there must be a good reason why we work hard to achieve them, why we can't sleep just thinking about them, why we pray for them, and so on.

However, there are moments when we already have them our excitement dwindles and we gradually take them for granted.

A friend once told me, "I once dreamt to land on this job. Now that I got it, I am not sure if I am still happy." Another friend said, "I was head-over-heels with my girl, and she is till the lovely lady I fell in love with, but the spark has gone."

What steals our attention and feelings? Our perspective.

Just like a camera lens, when we're out of focus, our visions blur making us overlook the details and reasons that brought us to that subject.

Revisit the times when you were hungering for that dream you have now fulfilled. List down the reasons why you wanted it so badly, and from there, press on those items everyday so you are always reminded of the reasons that once fueled you to achieve and move upwards toward that goal.

Do not forget your start off point. Instead, make it a platform for you to reach your next destination. Otherwise, you'll be stuck with your first pitstop all your life and will go round the rotund whining and ranting.

It's much easier to push your dreamcart up the hill, than pull it forward in the plain.

Revisit. Focus! Anchor your attention to where your heart started off. Then move forward to your next destination with the recall of the things that excited you... And capture every turn, detour, checkpoint, people you hitchhike as you journey to your next pitstop [dream].

Don't let any distraction steal your momentum!

Align your viewfinder. Focus. Capture!

Rewind. Revisit feelings. Refuel! ...and dream again, and achieve it!