Thinking Out Loud in my Boudoir is a column for some of my random thoughts that, perhaps, other ladies my age are also experiencing or thinking of—whether from same vantage point or another. Or maybe, just maybe, it’s just my own voice reverberating in my own world. I will do my best to discriminate my reason in this column, and just write spontaneously the first things and thoughts that a normal lady could think of. Just writing as I think...
To kick things off... here's my very first TOL :-)
I’m just so excited about certain things right now…and one of them is having this column, so ta-dah!
As I now immediately act upon my excitement that just sprang forth five minutes ago, I am all together amazed (and puzzled by the way) of us ladies’ “excitement” for the things we want.
When we want something, we sometimes tend to get so giddy about it, and usually we want it like NOW, have it now.
I am guilty of this crime, and sometimes even fall victim of my own crime. That’s why I am so cautious and deliberate when it comes to the more serious stuff (heck yes, this rationalization has no space in here *winks*).
But yes, it’s also fun when things get complicated and chaotic, because from there we learn and become wiser and life gets more colorful. OR, is it just another lie we tell ourselves to assuage our guilt or the pain or for us not to see ourselves stupid?
Whatever. The ladies that we are… We sometimes just want to have fun :-)
That’s one of the privileges of being a “she”. I mean, it’s okay for us to be openly vulnerable, to fall, to commit mistakes, to cry…and just brush things aside and laugh things off or cry things away with our girlfriends.
But I guess the most important part to remember about our being passionate is that we shouldn't make ourselves overly passionate. Yes passion, excitement, zeal, desire—whatever and however you call it—they’re all good, but not when too much.
I'm in my 20s right now and there’s a big and wonderful life ahead of me. I’m passionate about my law studies, about my dream of becoming a diplomat or working for an NGO, having a wonderful family, and the list goes on. Shoot girlfriend you also have a long list of the things you want to have and want to be.
We are excited about love, first kiss, new place to visit, new book, even first love making… but we don’t usually think of failing, betrayal, falling apart, etc; maybe because they block off our excitement, which is a very good feeling, right?
“This is what I want. I’ll get it. I want it now.”
So to get it, we sometimes think it’s better to lie or fake even just once; then another one; and another one.
But punkin, our actions have consequences… Of course, we all know that.
So whatever way it is we choose to take in order to get what we want, have fun but be responsible.
I’m not saying we do this or that. Different strokes for different folks, right? And I respect your choices. What I am just saying is we better get them with openness reflecting who we really are and with honesty about what we really want, and always always always take accountability.
So yes, girls, we want to have fun—and thrill.
And yes, ladies, we also want to have fun—and sophistication.
And yes, women, we also want to have fun—and dignity.
Oh right, our fun comes in different phases and degrees.
Just in case we stumble in excitement, just get up with some booty-tooching and flip-and-wave.
You’ll get what’s best for you…
Go girl! Don’t think like them, think like you… because there’s nothing much more liberating and empowering than to be who you really are, a lady who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to get what she wants. :-)